MARRIAGE

Marriage is a fusion of two souls. It is a promise by two adults before god to keep on the course beating all the challenges thrown to test them. This custom derived from millions of experiments through the ages past is a binding force, second only to religion. It has been praised to be the greatest social institution. It has proved to be a balm to frustrated souls.

Contrarily, the convention has been ridiculed by many. It has been the butt of jokes from poets to humorists. Jibes and satires of all hues have been made at the expense of this universal practice. The institution of marriage has evoked diverse comments, but it has survived all. The evolutionary metamorphosis of human race has only strengthened it. The Finnish proverb rightly states –love is a flower that turns into fruit at marriage.

. Some societies prize courtship route before marriage. Good for the partakers. But even a long courtship cannot reveal a person in totality, warts and all. It needs the day-in-and-day-out facts of constant presence. Otherwise the divorce lawyers will starve to extinction. Thus,except the childhood chums of Hollywood and Bollywoood,marriage is a union of choice between two strangers most of the times.  They do it with the full knowledge of the diversities separating them as individuals. The alchemy of sacred vows changes everything. They suddenly become partners of each other’s loss and gain; grief and happiness; health and sickness. They begin to sustain each other in times of need.  It is the sanctity of the institution of marriage that accomplishes the impossible. The idea has become embedded in human psyche. It has almost become a part of the genes of mankind. Marriage separates the homo-sapiens from the lower species.

Sex is fine. It is a binding ingredient of the bliss of marriage but it is not like animals. It becomes secondary to other nuances. Companionship, love, empathy, near bonding of even the thought process comes into play post marriage within no time. It makes a person jump and say-You make me so happy that I would try the same for you for a life time.  The western societies where the convention of marriage is losing its sanctity suffer more than the eastern where it still remains traditional.

Marriage is a serious affair. The convention is blessed by God, sanctioned by law, accepted by the society and fortified by love. The reason for marriage is the entrenched desire to multiply the species. A bond of affection is the gift received. Sharing and caring is the process till death. It is a coupling of two individuals who vow “to have and hold for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health to love and to cherish until death do them apart.” It is one institution that has gone from strength to strength. Aberrations might shake a person but the exceptions only prove the rule. From the food gathering days to the moon walking zenith of evolution the tradition of marriage has remained unwaveringly intact.

“NOT TONIGHT DEAR; I HAVE A HEADACHE…”

According to a recent news report, people these days have become so gizmo addicted that members of the same family, living under the same roof, communicate between rooms of the house through mails, calls and sms-es.  One had heard of staleness creeping into married life – but detachment to this extent in marriage and family?  Many nod their heads sagely and pronounce that a family born of the compromise of an arranged marriage can only end this way; others wag their fingers triumphantly to emphasise the fate of love marriages once the daily humdrum of life has taken off the rose tinted glasses and flung them out of the window of romance.

Communication is so vital that without it a relationship doesn’t really have much of a future except as a necessity, habit or trap.  All partners and members of a domestic group – family, nuclear or joint, marriage – communicate their emotions, opinions and needs.  How they do it depends on personality – outgoing, garrulous, reserved, expressive in more than speech, physically demonstrative and so on.  It is invariably a mix of methods ranging in degrees between deliberate and spontaneous.  Words, silence, looks, expressions, touch, carriage become means of communication.  A particularly explosive situation is promised if silence is taken as agreement or weakness, especially in cultures where age and gender dictate freedom or repression.  Not communicating feelings and aspiration translates into those around not recognizing them, hence being forced to shoulder uncomfortable situations until the breaking point is reached.  On the other side is the issue of communicating but in a manner that is either garbled or downright rude, even abusive, therefore often counter-productive.

These are complex issues with no straight answers.  There may be relationships or phases in them when talking and sharing every detail seems normal.  There may be those when speech becomes unnecessary – when much is revealed by the averting of eyes, a stiff profile in the car seat, laughing eyes peeping over the rim of a cup of coffee, a sharp look, wearing a color the other likes (or dislikes) … Into this now come the gadgets that are so much a part of our lives.  Using them from a distance is inevitable but when in the same house?  There is something to be said for ‘Wat time sports prac tom mrng?’ on a trusty mobile rather than crawling out of a cosy bed on a freezing winter night to go to the teenager in the next room, cursing for forgetting to check up on that at the dinner table. 

 And for beaming a spontaneously captured pose on the webcam before the moment is lost directly to someone catching up with friends on Facebook in the next room.  The impact of emoticons relaying a grin, anger, dismay can sometimes be greater than in person.  But can these things be allowed to become the norm rather than the exception in a home is a question too prickly to consider.  Just imagine a beep from one side of the bed being answered by another beep from the other side with the classic, “Not tonight dear; I have a headache…”

A Facebook App on Matrimony – The Next BIG thing!!

                             

Times change and so does our preferences and way of living. There were times where in an “Arranged Marriage” the boy and the girl had not much of choice in fixing of alliance. The conversation between the two was next to negligible before the wedding. They were not really allowed to choose a partner for themselves and couldn’t even object to the decision of their elders.
With changing mindsets and education spreading its wings, many of us have become “modern” in terms of our perspectives and outlook. Gone are the days when a priest or elder or neighbour or a friend used to find a suitable match for us. No longer are we required to give our details in a marriage bureau or a temple or any such places to find our life partner
Newspapers though still used are not the most efficient way….. Online Match making came on the marriage scene approximately a decade back.
However imagine finding that someone special through the help of a facebook app.?
Yes!!! a FACEBOOK APP…… its already happened and its the way match making will happen in the next decade. Marry in a week is the world’s first facebook matrimonial app designed to deliver relevant and useful matches within a week. It uses credible facebook data, filters inactive users to get you a response within no time. Relevant data for marriage such as age, education, work profile, location and relationship status are drawn by the Marry in a week app from the user’s facebook profile.
Why to go for Marry in a week??

• Its amazing feature of “Find Who likes you” available for free. This feature helps you to reach all relevant matches in one go and get a response from those who are interested in you within a week.
• It allows users to receive 0 to 6 relevant matches every day and directly connect with the prospective matches by expressing interest in their profiles.
• Privacy is full proof.
• Only individuals with at least 25 or more facebook friends are allowed to use the Marry in a Week app for matrimonial matchmaking.
• People with inappropriate relationship status – such as married, engaged or committed – are strictly kept out of the platform.
• It focuses on values, attitude, life style and interests and celebrates individuality and encourages people to present themselves in their true elements through photo albums.

With so many great features in just one app, what more could one ask for?? The privacy issues being handled with utmost care, there is no better way to find a suitable match for yourself than this. Marry in a week is the way to go!!