DOWRY OF GIRLS AND CAREER OF BOYS RULE MARRIAGES IN INDIA

The furore created by the skimpy clad diva was ferocious. The reason other than paucity of her dress was that she had almost touched upon the raw nerve of Indians. Perhaps she had no idea of the reaction when she said that Indians were a hypocritical society. Well, we might be that  but never in the open. She had committed the cardinal sin of saying it loudly.

Of course, we are hypocrites. If there is a measuring scale we would be 9th or 10th on the score of 10 in some areas of hypocrisy. But for god’s sake Mallika! We do not shout it from roof tops or in a press conference. We are the most skillful hypocrites in the world .Take the myth of marriages being solemnized purely for the reason of compatibility. Nothing could be far from the truth.

All of us are experts at practicing virtue at a distance. The deeply embedded desire of dowry is worth a thought. Nine out of ten educated people criticize it. On first encounter every boy’s father invariably remarks – ‘we don’t need anything. Whatever you give is your choice. It will be after all a gift to your daughter. The mask of being righteous remains firmly strapped at all times.

We are so great at hiding our true beliefs that we can even deceive ourselves in what we publicly state to be our true conviction.  The practice of dowry is condemned by every loudly thinking person.  The demand is never openly made. It is only at the time of deciding the nitty-gritty of solemnizing the marriage that the situation unfolds. Generally someone from groom’s family will innocuously ask about items being given to the Indian brides so that they will not purchase the same for the bride’s room in their house. What will be the point in duplicating the purchase of a Television, fridge, washing machine, play station, double bed, dressing table, safe, decorative items, modular kitchen, car, etc?  Obviously, the list of items needed in the room of the bride is a subtle reminder of what is being expected.

It is just a step behind the second hint of why purchase these items. It would be better if the monetary value of these items is calculated and cash is given to groom to purchase items of his liking. No household is free of this kind of subterfuge when it comes to dowry. The merits of the girl could even be secondary.

The same is true of expectations for the girls’ match. The compatibility begins and ends with the potential or reality of the financial condition of the future groom. It is always about money. No one bothers about love, beauty, compatibility, nature, values and lifestyle. Search for a groom starts and ends at his potential of earning money. More the potential the more is the market value of the groom. The going rates for an IAS, an IPS, a CA, a doctor and an IITian run in millions. Even a bank clerk’s price needs checking if someone finds the idea of ‘grooms are sold’ to be preposterous. Long back the INDIA TODAY had published a survey. It had put the going rate for an IAS at a Crore INR at that time. Now the inflation has raised the rates of high end grooms proportionately. There are no bargain sales or a ‘monsoon dhamaka’ in matrimonial market. It is a cut and dried affair because we are true hypocrites. We shout about the change but never let the risk come our way.

A MOTHER’S MATRIMONIAL MUSINGS

Right now, the focus of my life is Project Bindiya.  Bindiya is my 24 year old daughter. I am totally immersed in matrimonial alliances.  I have spread the word around in my circle, spoken to a few astrologers and flaunted my Bindiya at social gatherings.  I know the word is out – yet should I also tap matrimonial sites?

Like many of my generation, I am a little wary of the internet.  I can just about do my mails and google recipes.  Bindiya created a Facebook account for me so that I can network with old friends but I hardly log in; although when I do, I enjoy discussing with old friends what next will happen to Simar or Ram and Priya.

In fact, it was one such visit to Facebook that gave me the idea of matrimonial sites.  Something called marryinaweek there caught my eye.  From what I understand, it is like a matrimonial site with the usual advantage of a larger bank of prospective matches and the convenience of availability at a click but also has more: it’s a first of its kind matrimonial app linked to Facebook and as of now it is free. I read that it takes relevant information from a Facebook profile.  Should I ask Bindiya to register?  While I have been talking about our own community, I know that I have given my daughter the education and exposure to life that I was denied and deep down in my heart I fear that merely matching community may not be enough for her.  I want her to find a soul mate in the true sense of the word.  If he has the qualities to keep her secure and happy, I may be willing to compromise on the community part.  Anyway, who knows I may be lucky that someone from our community may also be up on Facebook and will suit in other ways as well?!

Bindiya decides who can view her profile so my fears about letting pictures and details loose on the internet without privacy become unfounded.  There will be no clutter since if she does not express an interest, the profile expires in a week; and if a prospect is really interested or interesting, the response will have to be in a week, or it is lost.  As a matrimonial site with a difference, it enables prospects to see the entire person – videos, pictures, posts and details – if allowed.  And since only those with 50 or more friends will have profiles taken, I am a little relaxed by the smaller chance then of sham profiles.  I know that along with other Facebook friends she can shut me out in her privacy settings, but as mother and daughter, we’ll share something and she does rely on my maturer outlook in many things.  I am traditional enough to know that she is “paraya dhan” and once married, she will have her privacy settings that will exclude me even in life.  She introduced me to Facebook – wonder what she’ll say when I tell her I found a matrimonial app I would like to introduce her to?

MARRIAGE

Marriage is a fusion of two souls. It is a promise by two adults before god to keep on the course beating all the challenges thrown to test them. This custom derived from millions of experiments through the ages past is a binding force, second only to religion. It has been praised to be the greatest social institution. It has proved to be a balm to frustrated souls.

Contrarily, the convention has been ridiculed by many. It has been the butt of jokes from poets to humorists. Jibes and satires of all hues have been made at the expense of this universal practice. The institution of marriage has evoked diverse comments, but it has survived all. The evolutionary metamorphosis of human race has only strengthened it. The Finnish proverb rightly states –love is a flower that turns into fruit at marriage.

. Some societies prize courtship route before marriage. Good for the partakers. But even a long courtship cannot reveal a person in totality, warts and all. It needs the day-in-and-day-out facts of constant presence. Otherwise the divorce lawyers will starve to extinction. Thus,except the childhood chums of Hollywood and Bollywoood,marriage is a union of choice between two strangers most of the times.  They do it with the full knowledge of the diversities separating them as individuals. The alchemy of sacred vows changes everything. They suddenly become partners of each other’s loss and gain; grief and happiness; health and sickness. They begin to sustain each other in times of need.  It is the sanctity of the institution of marriage that accomplishes the impossible. The idea has become embedded in human psyche. It has almost become a part of the genes of mankind. Marriage separates the homo-sapiens from the lower species.

Sex is fine. It is a binding ingredient of the bliss of marriage but it is not like animals. It becomes secondary to other nuances. Companionship, love, empathy, near bonding of even the thought process comes into play post marriage within no time. It makes a person jump and say-You make me so happy that I would try the same for you for a life time.  The western societies where the convention of marriage is losing its sanctity suffer more than the eastern where it still remains traditional.

Marriage is a serious affair. The convention is blessed by God, sanctioned by law, accepted by the society and fortified by love. The reason for marriage is the entrenched desire to multiply the species. A bond of affection is the gift received. Sharing and caring is the process till death. It is a coupling of two individuals who vow “to have and hold for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health to love and to cherish until death do them apart.” It is one institution that has gone from strength to strength. Aberrations might shake a person but the exceptions only prove the rule. From the food gathering days to the moon walking zenith of evolution the tradition of marriage has remained unwaveringly intact.

SEEKING A MATCH – A RELEVANT ONE

I am all of twenty three years old.  A young person poised to open new chapters in life.  One is inevitably marriage.  I am also a product of today: I am educated, working towards financial independence, social, technically savvy.  Malls, smart phones and countless friends on Facebook are part of my life.  I am looking for a partner, a soul mate, but in ways that I am comfortable with.  And I do believe that a Facebook app on matrimony is not a bad idea at all.  It suits me to a T.

I admit I am not radical.  I love and respect my parents, elders and culture.  I do not wish to be a rebel and I may not defy their suggestions, yet I want more – additional options that will reassure me that I stand a greater chance of getting what I want.  Just as in olden times parents invited suitable young men to their daughters’ swayamvara and sent their young sons as prospective bridegrooms, I want that option for myself.  Not an actual swayamvara but a virtual one – only for those who will match as bride or groom.  Parents and their offspring want an appropriate match; in other words, we are all looking for relevance.

My match making sum:

my qualities and what I normally do

+ some commonalities I am looking for

+ no fear of showing or communicating these

+ looking at these lists everyday to remind myself or, when convinced, make adjustments

-  clutter

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           my road map for seeking a suitable match

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 I have a profile on Facebook.  My profile gives my education, likes and dislikes.  My pictures show my lifestyle and preferences.  My status says unmarried.  I know there are several like me out there with profiles.  I also know that the more the friends, the less the chances of faking a life on Facebook.  And why would you want to fake a life, especially if you are looking for true friends or soul mates?  It would be a funeral and not a wedding!  So, if I want to use a system that takes information from my existing profile and puts up information relevant to my final aim, simultaneously ensuring only those I permit can access it, why not? Because the way I see it -

   Genuine profile information + access to those qualified, of interest or Interested = RELEVANCE

This equation immediately ups my chances of clutter-free suitable matches that I can express an interest in or allow to expire in a week.  Facebook and matrimony.

Technology taking inspiration from culture to facilitate what I want – not a bad idea at all.

MARRY IN A WEEK AT A CLICK – A POEM

There once was a man who wanted a wife

Why else but to share his life

Arranged or love marriage he was game

For him it was all the same

Family and experts sent word far and wide

Subjected him to comments sweet and snide

For privacy he did long

Just someone to whom he’d belong

Then came upon a matrimonial app

that to his goal provided the map

It ensured his profile only was seen

by those truly relevant and keen

Not even Facebook friends could tease

He gained control but without high fees

Cutting detail like hot knife through butter

The app prevented a whole lot of clutter

Six every week, each profile got individually

After being matched for compatibility

Expired, if of no interest, in a week

Some he wanted more to seek

Then he could on express interest click

And each could view other’s profile to pick

To go beyond community and caste

And judge the potential of relationships to last

Data taken from Facebook profile

Ensured accuracy, relevance and style

Only those qualify if FB friends number fifty

Such network prevents one from being shifty

FB provides age, status, work and education

If married or engaged, app ensures rejection

But if there, it is the person whole

Values, interests, pics – a look into the soul

So now he sits at phone and laptop

Receives what he needs and wants

A process streamlined and quick

That’s marryinaweek at a click

A Facebook App on Matrimony – The Next BIG thing!!

                             

Times change and so does our preferences and way of living. There were times where in an “Arranged Marriage” the boy and the girl had not much of choice in fixing of alliance. The conversation between the two was next to negligible before the wedding. They were not really allowed to choose a partner for themselves and couldn’t even object to the decision of their elders.
With changing mindsets and education spreading its wings, many of us have become “modern” in terms of our perspectives and outlook. Gone are the days when a priest or elder or neighbour or a friend used to find a suitable match for us. No longer are we required to give our details in a marriage bureau or a temple or any such places to find our life partner
Newspapers though still used are not the most efficient way….. Online Match making came on the marriage scene approximately a decade back.
However imagine finding that someone special through the help of a facebook app.?
Yes!!! a FACEBOOK APP…… its already happened and its the way match making will happen in the next decade. Marry in a week is the world’s first facebook matrimonial app designed to deliver relevant and useful matches within a week. It uses credible facebook data, filters inactive users to get you a response within no time. Relevant data for marriage such as age, education, work profile, location and relationship status are drawn by the Marry in a week app from the user’s facebook profile.
Why to go for Marry in a week??

• Its amazing feature of “Find Who likes you” available for free. This feature helps you to reach all relevant matches in one go and get a response from those who are interested in you within a week.
• It allows users to receive 0 to 6 relevant matches every day and directly connect with the prospective matches by expressing interest in their profiles.
• Privacy is full proof.
• Only individuals with at least 25 or more facebook friends are allowed to use the Marry in a Week app for matrimonial matchmaking.
• People with inappropriate relationship status – such as married, engaged or committed – are strictly kept out of the platform.
• It focuses on values, attitude, life style and interests and celebrates individuality and encourages people to present themselves in their true elements through photo albums.

With so many great features in just one app, what more could one ask for?? The privacy issues being handled with utmost care, there is no better way to find a suitable match for yourself than this. Marry in a week is the way to go!!

TO DO OR NOT TO DO HOUSEHOLD CHORES?

A generation or two ago the roles were divided neatly along gender lines. Men were the bread winners and women the home makers.

However the lines have now become fuzzy. With education and social mobility, women are making a mark in the world outside home. They are entering what were earlier considered male bastions. However while women’s attitudes are rapidly changing, men are not changing as rapidly.

I am not surprised. Why would someone voluntarily give up their privileges?

However, I am going to give 5 reasons why sharing household chores is a good idea for men:

1. It improves your health.  What do you do instead of helping out? 9 times out of 10 sit in a couch in front of the TV. Housework will definitely consume more calories than watching TV and will help maintain your health.
2. It improves your standard of living. If two heads are better than 1 then 4 hands are better than 2.  Your wife is not super woman…..something will have to get off the plate. A ton of talented and erstwhile economically productive women give up their careers post children. It is not because they lack ambition but because they just can’t physically manage it. They do try and juggle it for a while. But then they realize that home and kids are their responsibility and so reprioritize their lives. This despite knowing that today more than ever you need two incomes to get ahead.
3. It is not just about the time it takes to do the household chores but the sheer drudgery of them, the total lack of appreciation or even acknowledgement for them. Contrast it with working outside of home…the money, the feeling of worth. Now that women have experienced that they are certainly not happy doing it.
4. It provides a role model for your children. Your wife is doing less for you than your mom did for your dad. And she is doing it far more grudgingly. What do you think will your sons’ wife do?
5. Love at the end of the day is about sharing and caring. A happy wife. Is doing some dishes worth it?

As a friend of mine remarked, isn’t it amazing that the newspaper is full of incidents of people being shot at the slightest pretext manning a toll plaza or parking in a particular spot, yet no husband has ever been shot for doing the dishes.

By Courtesy  : http://www.marryinaweek.com/category/blog/

MY THOUGHTS ON MATRIMONY

Dear Diary,

I had a blazing argument with my folks today.  Wish I could unfriend them.  They say I’m getting old and I should marry soon, like marry in a week…… is this a joke or what……and how am i supposed to do that…… catch the first guy on the road?. They want an arranged marriage – I am old enough to marry but not old enough for my own swayamvar, so to speak.  I mean, what is swayamvar if not a chance to make my own matrimonial choice?  If someone were to post swayamvar online, I would definitely like it.  It’s ok for them to go to pandits, register me on matrimonial sites and give out my details to strangers, including Pinky aunty with red lipstick louder than her voice and bright pink nail polish – ugh – but I cannot go on a Facebook app on matrimony.  Facebook matchmaking?  They won’t hear of it.  It’s not safe.

Not safe?  How is it less safe than anywhere else?   I can choose who is to see me.  I mean, I wouldn’t waste my precious picture on just anybody. Who has control over my details elsewhere – the neighborhood pundit – or Pinky aunty? I’d love to try any app on matrimony where the profiles have complete privacy even from Facebook friends. Plus, data is drawn from the Facebook profile itself – I mean, it would be difficult for a person with lots of friends friends to fake a profile.  And if I get to see messages that I want and like – bridal clothes, honeymoon getaways, caterers, jewellery – it will mean more choices…from the comfort of my home.

Why can’t my folks see that I can manage, and if I can’t I can update myself on how best to keep myself safe online?  It’s for me to learn, manage just as it is for me to keep myself safe while crossing a road, take precautions when out alone, file my returns and what not. Since the privacy issue is resolved, I would like to use a platform that has a network focused towards what I need….. i mean people who genuinely what to get married…..and not there for a few laughs. You can get a ‘feel’ of things, and the dangers are as many or as few as anywhere in this world.  Let’s have faith in humanity and in some force that takes care of things, once you’re responsible enough (which I am now that I have crossed the twenty-something barrier).  It’ll still be an arranged match of sorts – I’ll still judge by certain parameters that the profile will contain.  Except, the initial meeting will be in a virtual space rather than at a tea party with Pinky aunty hovering in the background. Whats wrong with that?

A MATRIMONIAL WINDOW ON FACEBOOK

Match making on Facebook!  A Matrimonial app on facebook!

Well, don’t file it under ‘Ripley’s believe it or not’ because Face Book was always about – bringing people together. It is after all the biggest social networking site on date. Nor take it as ‘strange but true’ because a facebook matrimonial application was something waiting to happen. It was only a matter of time before someone grabbed the idea for all its worth.

‘Marry in a week’ is world’s first matrimonial app on facebook. http://apps.facebook.com/marryinaweek.com in the online matrimony space and it deals with things very differently compared to matrimonial websites.

‘Marry in a week’ synchs marriage relevant information on facebook with your profile on the app. Since most young marriageable people, maintain a large network of friends it’s impossible to fake information such as like marital status, work, education, living in etc in your facebook account as it is viewed by friends

It asks questions on person’s value system, life style and interests. Since all responses are socially acceptable, people will likely give their genuine response and offer insights about themselves. The big idea is to ensure match making based on openness to showcase and celebrate individuality.

The last and the most important element in this app is the concept of expiry of daily matches, expression of interest and received interest. This is to ensure that both sides act fast and respond with an interest whenever they like a profile.  This ensures that one could actually find a match in a week and all going well may even marry in a week.

“Marryinaweek” works on 3 premises – Relevance, Availability and Interest.

Whereas matrimonial websites operate on the back of powerful search engines which offer endless clutter of matches, most suitably dressed up to look good. But out of these hundreds of match results, only a small number is actually available to you because people maintain different timelines and priorities than you.

The fact that even when people receive interest there is always a temptation to wait for an even better match. This causes a “scattered availability” problem. Where one either side of the transaction people needs are not aligned.

Not to mention that matrimony in India just like our parliament is based on caste.  Though officially we maintain that caste is a social evil but we do precious little about this. What about the growing number of young people who do not believe or want to follow caste is there an option? As these websites seek compulsorily caste inputs.

The profile on these websites do not stress on values, interest and lifestyle as if these were not important in the matter of marriage.

Finding your soul mate on a facebook app is the route going to be taken by our future generations. Its the simplicity and efficiency that makes it impossible to ignore.

You Sign up by clicking on http://apps.facebook.com/marryinaweek and fill up the questionnaire.

The app receives the profile data from FB. The credibility of the data is high because (i) the source is Facebook and because (ii) only that profile is taken that has 25 or more friends. This precaution solves the problem of fake profiles greatly.

The app. churns these profiles, finds the compatibility quotient and provides you up to six matches every day based on your profile details. These daily profiles expire in a week.

If you ‘like’ a match, click ‘express interest’ button. If the liked match accepts your interest, then you are a double match and will automatically view each other’s contact details to take the process forward offline.

Can it get simpler than this?

If you want to accelerate the process you can also use the wonderful feature ‘Find who likes you’ and reach all your relevant matches in one go and get response from them within a week.

The best part is that it is completely private and confidential. It has no privacy issues. Your profile match remains confidential to the extent that it becomes visible only to the other match of the equation. Your parents can see your matrimonial app activity but only if you permit them access to it.

Whats more!  there is presently no charge to use the app marryinaweek.com.

THE OLD AGE TRADITION OF “KUNDLI MATCHMAKING”!!

                                                        

Sneha, a young, slim and beautiful girl, a post graduate and working in one of the leading companies. A 24 year old who lives her life on her beliefs and principles. She’s the girl of the 21^st century with modern perspectives. Her family members are trying their best to arrange her marriage considering the fact that she’s well settled and has attained a marriageable age. Many proposals came for her from various channels and destinations. There were no grounds to reject her as far as her physical features were concerned. But her marriage got delayed several times because of the old age tradition/belief which is main impediment in marriage i.e. viewing Kundli (Horoscope), karmakands, dosh, etc. Adding to her problems, she had a Mangal prone horoscope which is generally considered as a bad omen in the community since ages. She didn’t believe in any of this and was helpless in this regard. Despite of having a well educated family she could not convince them to overlook the so called “KUNDLI MATCHMAKING” tradition.

Years passed by and soon she entered her late twenties and by this time one could notice a drastic change in her behaviour. She was no longer a “Happy go Lucky Sneha” and became a dull and quiet personality who was mostly found lost in her thoughts. She tried to keep aloof from her family and friends. The thought of getting rejected by quite a number of guys within a few years only on the grounds of being a “MANGLIK” kept bothering her. All day long she used to question herself “What is my fault if I was not born just 10 minutes before??” Yes, that’s what her family astrologer said while preparing her kundli. Just because she was born 10 minutes late, her kundli witnessed a Manglik dosh with her taras and grahs changing their positions. Can you believe it??? She did not even know what were possibly the taras and grahas. All she believed was that the essence of a successful marriage is based on understanding and compatibility.

After going through a series of rejections based on the reasons she didn’t even believe, she had different plans for her life altogether. With a thought in mind that her life cannot be decided by an astrologer with his orthodox believes, she decided to give a new turn to her destiny. One day she went to her family pundit’s (astrologer) office. It was not just any ordinary office but was a huge 3 storey building with big nameplates and banners all over. She went there and had a conversation with him for almost about an hour showing keen interest in the field of astrology. She enquired about all the facts which were becoming a hurdle in her marriage. The pundit briefed her with all the details and charged her with a considerable amount of fee. At the time of payment, Sneha offered him an amount ten times the fee and asked him to prepare a new kundli eliminating the so called DOSHS. She succeeded in her mission and the pundit convinced her family with the “New” kundli. Alas, she got married within a span of 2 months! It’s been almost 2 years now and Sneha is happily married with 2 kids. Till date no one is aware of the truth.

We call ourselves the so called “Modern” people but are we really modern in our thoughts?? Well, that’s what needs our attention. We see how kundli/horoscope matchmaking has become more of a business these days but still we follow such old school traditions. Marrying a tree or an animal or an object would dissolve our doshs we don’t even know, we still follow such rituals. It has actually become more of a “HORRORSCOPE” rather than horoscope.

Trust and understanding are the essence of any relationship. These are the factors which need our focus while getting married leaving the rest up to Almighty above!

MONEY AND MARRIAGE – WASN’T IT ALWAYS ABOUT MONEY, SUNNY?

They say marriage is fun; that you are incomplete without it; that marriage is what separates men from boys. The friends and family pump you up so high that you run the risk of colliding with the satellites up there in the sky. So you get married. They all prove to be wrong. What do you get in return to the longest- two- words’ sentence in English— ‘I do’?

They never tell you about the ‘clearance sales’ every Saturday, the ‘newest eatery in town’, and ‘the cousins’ birthdays’- which become mandatory events to attend with your better half. The sister-in-law’s‘marriage anniversary’ you could miss only at your peril and you really have to be brave to forget theretirement party of your father-in-law - meaning a heavy gift for the old man from your fast dwindling fortune, horded during your bachelor days.                                                                                                                                                                  They do not warn that every step of marriage will travel through your wallet and you will have to keep your wallet open and mouth shut. Keep balancing the salary statement against requisitions from at least one quarter you dare not question, that is, your wife. You also find out that the wives can everyday devise better ways of boring into a husband’s money than the finance minister can think of robbing it legally. One can almost come to believe that both the FM and the HM at home are hand in glove to deplete the accounts of husbands. What is left over from their schemes has to go towards EMI’s.

Life seems to be mortgaged to the dream you had on the day you got hooked into matrimony.

What should a young man do? Abjure marriage forever?  Let his world move on the tenterhooks of live-in arrangements. That does not seem to be very ideal.

So, how to solve the conundrum of marriage? The person best suited is the one who has cracked the code himself. The grand pa who had already disposed off two wives opined thus on asking for the solution. ‘You cannot have your cake and eat it too. When you marry you enter into a contract, a vow and a promise in the name of and for God.

Once you are married you cannot think only of your rights. Marriage entails duties. It may not be a bed of roses but is better than that. It is the harbinger of the human civilization.

Marriage gives rise to families. The families give rise to society. And the collective experiences of the society give rise to traditions, culture and civilization.

When you marry you are thrown into a new world. Different aspirations spring up to be dealt with your bachelor identity. You have to change. You have to run a more planned life. The plan for a new family, new people in the family and then the needs of the new group of members of that bigger family take priority.

Think of marriage and god together. God will see to it that your endeavour does not go unrewarded.

“HONEY WE SHOULD TALK”…IS IT THE BEGINNING OF THE ‘END’?

This phrase is the most dreaded aspect of any marriage, and is often decoded as “honey, you are in trouble…” however, the partners often forget the real danger hidden under it.

The real danger lies in the need to “talk”. The busy lives led by us leave no room for talking; it is negated and left for the “emergency-times”. Why does the “need-to-talk” appear at the very crucial point of the relation?  The answer is very simple; we often forget to TALK otherwise!

How to handle it

Talking is definitely a remedy to sort out any matter, even a superpower like U.S.A never shies away from “peace-talk”. Then why do we run away from talking? Or take it as a red alert? The best solution is definitely to talk it out! So whenever we are summoned by our special-ones for the “talk”, we are only supposed to walk calmly and solve the matter.

How to avoid such talking sessions in future

A routine with a session of 20-30 minutes of talking everyday will save you from any catastrophe. Worldly-wise people claim that hiding the truth from your spouse (if it is likely to disappoint them or break your marriage) is best way to keep the bond intact. However, these myths should never be trusted, as they do nothing except being a catalyst to rupture a marriage. Lies never help, thus a confession session is better than the “talk”. Lastly, it is not funny to tell your spouse how you love them over a thousand times, the cuddling sessions or the over the phone love you sessions should never cease, drill it into their minds how you care for them and how you long to hear their voice at the end of a busy day.

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“HAPPILY MARRIED”- NOT JUST A MYTH!!

“Neeta, a 14 year old, sitting beside her window pane, dreaming about her PRINCE charming who would come riding on a white horse with a sword in his hand and would fight with this world to be with her. He would take her away to her dream world, with a small cottage built on countryside where the two would spend their lives happily together. A world, far off from real life villains and obstacles. A small house, even with a single room, doesn’t really matter to her. All she wants is a HOME-Sweet- Home!”

The above story sounds more like a typical BOLLYWOOD movie where the hero and the heroine meet up, fall in love, go through a series of problems and finally end up getting together and live happily ever after. Looks like most of the movies are based on fairy tales. Aren’t they??

What happens when a Fairy Tale becomes a Reality??

Let’s understand this by considering our very own “Neeta” representing the story of every other girl in this world.

“Neeta, a young and beautiful 14 year old, studying in high school. She’s the “Miss Popular” of her school. Like a typical beautiful teen, she likes to throw tantrums and is full of attitude. Where every other guy of the school tries to approach her, she hardly cares! But deep down inside, she’s no less than a normal girl who dreams about her prince charming day and night. Her dreams and aspirations are no different than any other girl. She wants to be pampered, loved, cared and respected. As the time passes by, she enters into a new life – College, new space and new friends but with the same dream inside her heart. Finally, the day comes when she meets her dream man, her prince charming, the guy she’s been looking for all her life. The two fall in love and make promises to spend their lives together. After facing a couple of hurdles, both end up getting married. Not only they are married but are HAPPILY MARRIED with their twin sons.”

Neeta’s story is a little hard to believe for us who call ourselves the so called “Practical” people. Where most of the bollywood stories have a happy ending, we find it difficult to accept them. All stories may not have a happy ending but they do go through a phase of good times. Times where we smile, laugh with tears of joy and share the best times of our lives. Such times are worth living for. Where “Happily Married=Happily Adjusted”, it shouldn’t be that difficult to accept the reality. People do fall in love, make promises to be together, get married, have kids and live happily ever after. The period of “EVER-AFTER” does exist! The period where the two are there for each other in times thick and thin. The period where the duo grow old together and so does their love and bond.

Yes, such stories aren’t just fiction. They do happen in real life. All we need to do is just look around. Who knows may be one day our story would be no different than a fairy tale!

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