WHY WOULD MATRIMONIAL SPEED DATING WORK?

Speed dating is one novel way to find a match.  It may seem incredible that you can find someone in 3 to 8 minutes worth expressing an interest in but  studies, such as the one conducted in 2005 by evolutionary psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania of dating data from 10,526 anonymous people speed dating and the others conducted in Edinburgh, found:

• most people made their choices within the first three seconds of meeting
• 45% of the women participants in a speed dating event and 22% of the men came to a decision within the first 30 seconds
• whatever people may say about beliefs and what they are looking for in another, the ‘clicking’ happens quickly
• issues such as religion and previous marriages played less of a role than expected
• people may have bad experiences with matches that look good on paper, so in a match seeking environment like speed dating, it seems they tend to follow their hearts and desires
• dialogue concerning travel resulted in more matches than dialogue about movies
• scent and age play some part in the choice
• women are more selective than men
• women are quicker at making up their minds about a potential partner than men

Proponents of speed dating argue that it works on its ability to save time as most people quickly decide if they are romantically compatible – after all, first impressions last.

Since meeting sufficient number of interesting people in everyday life is so incredibly difficult. The concept of Matrimonial speed dating is an awesome idea whose time has come. In 2.5 hours a person can meet as same number of prospective matches as it would take 3 months to meet. Add to this the humungous planning, preparation, emotions and expenses involved and compare it to a simple 2.5 hours fun event which gives you not only better results but also preempts you from getting stuck on a long boring date with someone who’s not your type.

MARRIAGE

Marriage is a fusion of two souls. It is a promise by two adults before god to keep on the course beating all the challenges thrown to test them. This custom derived from millions of experiments through the ages past is a binding force, second only to religion. It has been praised to be the greatest social institution. It has proved to be a balm to frustrated souls.

Contrarily, the convention has been ridiculed by many. It has been the butt of jokes from poets to humorists. Jibes and satires of all hues have been made at the expense of this universal practice. The institution of marriage has evoked diverse comments, but it has survived all. The evolutionary metamorphosis of human race has only strengthened it. The Finnish proverb rightly states –love is a flower that turns into fruit at marriage.

. Some societies prize courtship route before marriage. Good for the partakers. But even a long courtship cannot reveal a person in totality, warts and all. It needs the day-in-and-day-out facts of constant presence. Otherwise the divorce lawyers will starve to extinction. Thus,except the childhood chums of Hollywood and Bollywoood,marriage is a union of choice between two strangers most of the times.  They do it with the full knowledge of the diversities separating them as individuals. The alchemy of sacred vows changes everything. They suddenly become partners of each other’s loss and gain; grief and happiness; health and sickness. They begin to sustain each other in times of need.  It is the sanctity of the institution of marriage that accomplishes the impossible. The idea has become embedded in human psyche. It has almost become a part of the genes of mankind. Marriage separates the homo-sapiens from the lower species.

Sex is fine. It is a binding ingredient of the bliss of marriage but it is not like animals. It becomes secondary to other nuances. Companionship, love, empathy, near bonding of even the thought process comes into play post marriage within no time. It makes a person jump and say-You make me so happy that I would try the same for you for a life time.  The western societies where the convention of marriage is losing its sanctity suffer more than the eastern where it still remains traditional.

Marriage is a serious affair. The convention is blessed by God, sanctioned by law, accepted by the society and fortified by love. The reason for marriage is the entrenched desire to multiply the species. A bond of affection is the gift received. Sharing and caring is the process till death. It is a coupling of two individuals who vow “to have and hold for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health to love and to cherish until death do them apart.” It is one institution that has gone from strength to strength. Aberrations might shake a person but the exceptions only prove the rule. From the food gathering days to the moon walking zenith of evolution the tradition of marriage has remained unwaveringly intact.

MARRY IN A WEEK AT A CLICK – A POEM

There once was a man who wanted a wife

Why else but to share his life

Arranged or love marriage he was game

For him it was all the same

Family and experts sent word far and wide

Subjected him to comments sweet and snide

For privacy he did long

Just someone to whom he’d belong

Then came upon a matrimonial app

that to his goal provided the map

It ensured his profile only was seen

by those truly relevant and keen

Not even Facebook friends could tease

He gained control but without high fees

Cutting detail like hot knife through butter

The app prevented a whole lot of clutter

Six every week, each profile got individually

After being matched for compatibility

Expired, if of no interest, in a week

Some he wanted more to seek

Then he could on express interest click

And each could view other’s profile to pick

To go beyond community and caste

And judge the potential of relationships to last

Data taken from Facebook profile

Ensured accuracy, relevance and style

Only those qualify if FB friends number fifty

Such network prevents one from being shifty

FB provides age, status, work and education

If married or engaged, app ensures rejection

But if there, it is the person whole

Values, interests, pics – a look into the soul

So now he sits at phone and laptop

Receives what he needs and wants

A process streamlined and quick

That’s marryinaweek at a click

“NOT TONIGHT DEAR; I HAVE A HEADACHE…”

According to a recent news report, people these days have become so gizmo addicted that members of the same family, living under the same roof, communicate between rooms of the house through mails, calls and sms-es.  One had heard of staleness creeping into married life – but detachment to this extent in marriage and family?  Many nod their heads sagely and pronounce that a family born of the compromise of an arranged marriage can only end this way; others wag their fingers triumphantly to emphasise the fate of love marriages once the daily humdrum of life has taken off the rose tinted glasses and flung them out of the window of romance.

Communication is so vital that without it a relationship doesn’t really have much of a future except as a necessity, habit or trap.  All partners and members of a domestic group – family, nuclear or joint, marriage – communicate their emotions, opinions and needs.  How they do it depends on personality – outgoing, garrulous, reserved, expressive in more than speech, physically demonstrative and so on.  It is invariably a mix of methods ranging in degrees between deliberate and spontaneous.  Words, silence, looks, expressions, touch, carriage become means of communication.  A particularly explosive situation is promised if silence is taken as agreement or weakness, especially in cultures where age and gender dictate freedom or repression.  Not communicating feelings and aspiration translates into those around not recognizing them, hence being forced to shoulder uncomfortable situations until the breaking point is reached.  On the other side is the issue of communicating but in a manner that is either garbled or downright rude, even abusive, therefore often counter-productive.

These are complex issues with no straight answers.  There may be relationships or phases in them when talking and sharing every detail seems normal.  There may be those when speech becomes unnecessary – when much is revealed by the averting of eyes, a stiff profile in the car seat, laughing eyes peeping over the rim of a cup of coffee, a sharp look, wearing a color the other likes (or dislikes) … Into this now come the gadgets that are so much a part of our lives.  Using them from a distance is inevitable but when in the same house?  There is something to be said for ‘Wat time sports prac tom mrng?’ on a trusty mobile rather than crawling out of a cosy bed on a freezing winter night to go to the teenager in the next room, cursing for forgetting to check up on that at the dinner table. 

 And for beaming a spontaneously captured pose on the webcam before the moment is lost directly to someone catching up with friends on Facebook in the next room.  The impact of emoticons relaying a grin, anger, dismay can sometimes be greater than in person.  But can these things be allowed to become the norm rather than the exception in a home is a question too prickly to consider.  Just imagine a beep from one side of the bed being answered by another beep from the other side with the classic, “Not tonight dear; I have a headache…”

A Facebook App on Matrimony – The Next BIG thing!!

                             

Times change and so does our preferences and way of living. There were times where in an “Arranged Marriage” the boy and the girl had not much of choice in fixing of alliance. The conversation between the two was next to negligible before the wedding. They were not really allowed to choose a partner for themselves and couldn’t even object to the decision of their elders.
With changing mindsets and education spreading its wings, many of us have become “modern” in terms of our perspectives and outlook. Gone are the days when a priest or elder or neighbour or a friend used to find a suitable match for us. No longer are we required to give our details in a marriage bureau or a temple or any such places to find our life partner
Newspapers though still used are not the most efficient way….. Online Match making came on the marriage scene approximately a decade back.
However imagine finding that someone special through the help of a facebook app.?
Yes!!! a FACEBOOK APP…… its already happened and its the way match making will happen in the next decade. Marry in a week is the world’s first facebook matrimonial app designed to deliver relevant and useful matches within a week. It uses credible facebook data, filters inactive users to get you a response within no time. Relevant data for marriage such as age, education, work profile, location and relationship status are drawn by the Marry in a week app from the user’s facebook profile.
Why to go for Marry in a week??

• Its amazing feature of “Find Who likes you” available for free. This feature helps you to reach all relevant matches in one go and get a response from those who are interested in you within a week.
• It allows users to receive 0 to 6 relevant matches every day and directly connect with the prospective matches by expressing interest in their profiles.
• Privacy is full proof.
• Only individuals with at least 25 or more facebook friends are allowed to use the Marry in a Week app for matrimonial matchmaking.
• People with inappropriate relationship status – such as married, engaged or committed – are strictly kept out of the platform.
• It focuses on values, attitude, life style and interests and celebrates individuality and encourages people to present themselves in their true elements through photo albums.

With so many great features in just one app, what more could one ask for?? The privacy issues being handled with utmost care, there is no better way to find a suitable match for yourself than this. Marry in a week is the way to go!!

MARRYINAWEEK OVER COFFEE

Overheard at a neighboring table at a café, unwittingly and forced to since the two young men in their late-twenties spoke unconscionably  totally absorbed in their own situation, uncaring if anyone else heard them or not.  Today’s generation.  Not apologetic about who they are or what they want – in this case, getting married, finding a suitable match and a newly discovered matrimony app on Facebook:

Guy 1 (with bulging biceps, obviously a gym buff): Ma and Dad have shown me so many pics – they all look good.  Girls are so good at putting all that stuff on their faces …

Guy 2 (with trendy shades perched on head): … no way! Not all – I’m sure they went to the beauty parlour first.  Anyway, whoever you choose, you’ll have a good looking girl walk in with you at our parties

Bulging Biceps: But I can’t tell what they are really like.  Be sensible – I’m not only going to be attending parties – I want a proper profile – you know, interests, beliefs, likes, dislikes

Trendy Shades (pressing some buttons on his phone): You’re in luck – found this while posting my status yesterday.  ‘Marry in a week’ which world’s first Facebook app on matrimony. ….. Register.  It’s free for now.

Bulging Biceps Ma’s already registered me on a dozen matrimonial sites

Trendy Shades: This is not a matrimonial site. It’s a Matrimonial app on facebook which your mom can’t use on your behalf, only you can use while after logging into your facebook account….why not try it.   Your mom and dad can only access your profile if you share Facebook password with them. BTW, I’m sure they will be looking for caste and stuff and knowing you, you are more keen on finding other things about the girl

Bulging Biceps: Sure.  I’m not marrying a caste, I’m marrying a person.  That they do not understand.  I want someone with whom I can share things – there has to be something, personality-wise

Trendy Shades: Then this is it.  This app will syncs marriage relevant information from facebook to the app profile.  Your status has to be unmarried for this to work for you.  Plus, it will only take profiles of those with 25 friends or more on Facebook. You can’t be fake on Facebook with a large number of friends – so you can be sure profile is credible.

Bulging Biceps: Forget it.  I already have enough matches – too much clutter on my laptop already

Trendy Shades: But this app will match your profile with others with a compatibility quotient and give you a few matches everyday.  And they won’t pile up – they will expire in a week. If you like something, click on ‘Express interest’ and if the other side too accepts you then you can view each other’s profiles and uske baad, you are the boss – take it forward from there

Bulging Biceps: That should be quick.  At least I won’t have to wait for ages for a response.  It’ll save me time

Trendy Shades: Yup! 5 minutes daily, just like you update your Facebook posts.

Bulging Biceps: Great. Thanks – good that you know so much about it.  How come?

Trendy Shades:  It’s easy – doesn’t take much….. it was so simple and easy to use……  Besides, I registered on Marry in a week last night. Let’s pay up and leave – I have to be in CP in an hour.   Chal, let’s go … There’s loads more – I’ll tell you on the metro…

TO DO OR NOT TO DO HOUSEHOLD CHORES?

A generation or two ago the roles were divided neatly along gender lines. Men were the bread winners and women the home makers.

However the lines have now become fuzzy. With education and social mobility, women are making a mark in the world outside home. They are entering what were earlier considered male bastions. However while women’s attitudes are rapidly changing, men are not changing as rapidly.

I am not surprised. Why would someone voluntarily give up their privileges?

However, I am going to give 5 reasons why sharing household chores is a good idea for men:

1. It improves your health.  What do you do instead of helping out? 9 times out of 10 sit in a couch in front of the TV. Housework will definitely consume more calories than watching TV and will help maintain your health.
2. It improves your standard of living. If two heads are better than 1 then 4 hands are better than 2.  Your wife is not super woman…..something will have to get off the plate. A ton of talented and erstwhile economically productive women give up their careers post children. It is not because they lack ambition but because they just can’t physically manage it. They do try and juggle it for a while. But then they realize that home and kids are their responsibility and so reprioritize their lives. This despite knowing that today more than ever you need two incomes to get ahead.
3. It is not just about the time it takes to do the household chores but the sheer drudgery of them, the total lack of appreciation or even acknowledgement for them. Contrast it with working outside of home…the money, the feeling of worth. Now that women have experienced that they are certainly not happy doing it.
4. It provides a role model for your children. Your wife is doing less for you than your mom did for your dad. And she is doing it far more grudgingly. What do you think will your sons’ wife do?
5. Love at the end of the day is about sharing and caring. A happy wife. Is doing some dishes worth it?

As a friend of mine remarked, isn’t it amazing that the newspaper is full of incidents of people being shot at the slightest pretext manning a toll plaza or parking in a particular spot, yet no husband has ever been shot for doing the dishes.

By Courtesy  : http://www.marryinaweek.com/category/blog/