No one can understand why a woman works for ten years to change her man and then complains – he is not the man she married. It is said that the first woman was created from the rib of the first man to support him and to be beside him and not from his head to be on top of him.
No one told the rib her true purpose.
Women are steeped in the art of change. Initially they battle with their weight and looks and later it is their men. When young, their toys get the basic blast of this feminine quest and the dolls get their full treatment. No amount of bathing, draping and re draping would satisfy a young girl if she is made of the real feminine mettle. The same is done with men when they grow up.
The old joke rightly says it – women marry men with the hope they will change and men marry women hoping they won’t. Both are disappointed.
There are many theories about why women want to change their men. None describes the reality because nothing can fathom the deviousness of a woman’s mind. If asked their stock reply is –“Of course we have to be devious. We have to deal with men.” They couch the quest to change in words like sprucing up, bringing around or making over etc.
Whatever word you use to describe the phenomenon, the fact remains that men are in for a wringer the moment they become husbands.
It is possibly true to believe that the first thing that a woman thinks when meeting a potential husband would be –‘Well, not bad! He is like cute and could be better. Only if he will have a little better dress sense. And yes he should change his hair style as well. No prob. I will see to it. He will be the best looking guy after I have finished.’
Herein lies the basic reason for the feminine quest. All women want to be seen with the best and they are convinced that they know the best. It is believed by psychologists that women initially marry even slobs – as they see it – and then wish to change them into heroes. This proves their worth. Women judge other women on the basis of the sarees, the jewellery, the makeup, the style etc. It seems they must judge their husbands too on the same scale of attractiveness and worth. So when a man is pushed into a change in the style of his woman it is only to lift the man to become smarter. This in turn elevates the worth of the woman also.
It is also believed that the feminine quest to change could be the expression of a deep-seated desire of women for constant expression of love and commitment from their male partners. It makes them push their men for the sprucing up and making over. This will prove how much hold they have on the person. An acceptance to change will be a proof of commitment.
Therefore, the guys will do well to accept the blue shirt and black pant combination even if it makes one look like a waiter. After all the lady is trying to only confirm your love for her.
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