Some call it the unison of two souls, some call it companionship and while for a few it’s just a legal contract between people. Even a thousand ways are less to describe and define one of the most beautiful relationships- MARRIAGE! The wedding knot, the shared vows, the rituals performed, all of them makes this relationship exemplary. But like every other relation, it requires ADJUSTMENTS. Where two people come from distinct backgrounds with different sets of perceptions, expectations and needs, ADJUSTMENT is a must-have. The sacrifices made, the relinquishment of a few personal freedoms, coming out of the world of fantasy, all form a part of adjustments. The ability to love, understand, trust and respect, makes a marriage more stronger and successful.
Adjustment in a marriage is a two-way process. Let’s understand it from the perspective of both the spouses.
From “HER’s” aspect:
Born and brought up in an environment of love, affection, pamper and safety. The place where she spends the best times of her life, for her it’s more than just a house. A daddy’s little girl and the apple of her mother’s eye, she has to leave everything behind. Her family, her last name, the beautiful memories, literally everything! Where there is an end to an era, a whole new life begins for a girl after marriage. It’s no less than a reincarnation. Adjusting to the new environment, family, culture, etc is a big challenge for any married woman. Understanding the needs and expectations of her spouse is not enough. She has to go through a series of confrontations, be it the fear of In-laws, the financial adjustments or adjusting to an intimate relationship. The fear of not getting accepted by the new family, especially the Hitler image “Mother-in-law”, a woman has to go through all these emotions. The unrevealed weaknesses and virtues of her husband during courtship all come to notice after marriage. It’s no less than coming out of a make-believe world into the new space of reality with responsibilities.
From “His” eye:
From a mama’s boy to an adult, a man performs different roles in his lifetime. Where before marriage, he’s a son, a brother, a list of responsibilities are added on to his shoulders post marriage. The role of a husband is not at all a cakewalk for him. Taking care of the needs and aspirations of his newly wedded wife does not put an end to his responsibilities towards his family. Maintaining a perfect balance between the mother-wife relationship is a tough task for him. Ensuring financial security to the family is another significant area of concern. For a married man, adjustment is all about MAINTAINING THE BALANCE.
A well known fact “Great love is built on great sacrifice, and that home where the principle of sacrifice for the welfare of each other is daily expressed is that home where there abides a great love”. A perfect married life should become independent of her folks and his folks. Marriage is not an easy road to walk, however it’s the most rewarding. The little sacrifices and adjustments are a way to a HAPPY HOME!
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